Events that Change You Forever
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We all try to fill our lives with as many good things and good experiences as we can, and we all have varying degrees of success in doing this. The reason for this is because there are limits. Right now, there is a maximum limit for how much of a good time you can have, and you can't exceed that.
No matter what you do or how much you try, you won't be able to go past it. You are limited by your circumstances, your resources, and the boundaries of your life. Fortunately, and sometimes unfortunately, this maximum limit changes at different stages of your life. The amount of enjoyment you can have this year, for example, might be more than last year.
But it doesn't just control how much fun you have. It also affects what you are able to do and what you think you can do. Your freedom to live your life the way you want to is constrained by these limitations. So why do you have these limits? Why do you feel like you can't do something or that there's something you're not able to do at the moment? Well, the answer is that these limits give you something very important. They provide a finite space for you to grow out of, a space where you need to check all the boxes.
The time spent in this space is a key factor too. You need time to truly understand the situations you are repeating and to feel confident in facing the challenges in this part of your life. Once you've outgrown this space, you can move on to the next area with new boundaries. And new boundaries mean new limits because what you can or can't do at this point in your life isn't the same as at other times. So let's explore when it changes.
Your life is composed of different periods, and when one period ends, another begins. However, each period is not the same, and when you enter a new one, it's as if the rules have slightly shifted. In a previous period, you may not have been able to do something or even had the feeling that it was possible, and now suddenly it is available to you or feels easy to do. It's important to identify these shifts in the different areas of your life.
Equally important is knowing your limits and recognizing that if something feels impossible, it's best to put it aside and forget about it for a while. But what about the things you want to do but can't? How do you know what is possible and what is not possible right now?
There are a couple of warning signs to be sensitive to. The first one is trouble with other people, which includes anything negative coming from them. It could be as mild as encountering resistance to your ideas or actions, or it could be a strong, overreactive response from them.
Another sign is when the situation doesn't feel right. This can be more challenging to discern, especially when there's something you want to do but shouldn't. Feelings can be subtle or vague, making it difficult to trust and easy to dismiss. Therefore, you need to be hyper-aware.
To summarize, these limitations may feel restrictive at times, but you must be patient and wait for a period when you are able to do the things you want. Not having the freedom to have more good times or do what you want can be disheartening, but in the next period, things will change, and some of those desired actions may become possible.
