Experiences That Will Change You Into a Different Person

• Video Transcript

  As you have gone through your life, certain experiences have shaped and changed you. But not all of your experiences have changed you. So, what kind of experiences have made you into who you are today? Experiences that change you are ones that make you think you are not good enough. And this covers a wide range of experiences that I'll get into later, but first, let's look at how they change you.

  You might imagine that negative experiences like this would have an adverse effect on you, but actually, the opposite is true, and this is because of how you react. When you feel that you aren't good enough, you start to question, first of all, whether you really aren't good enough, but also why you think you aren't good enough.

  You compare yourself to other people and see if they are lacking in that area too. And you start trying to defend yourself and make yourself think that you are good enough. All of this starts a process in your mind that leads you to try to meet this elusive standard you have set for yourself, and slowly over time, this changes you.

  But what is the point of you changing, and why do you need to change at all? Well, the reason is that you change because it makes your life easier in the future. It will benefit you to think and act in a slightly different way because you will be better able to handle the situations you are faced with. In other words, you will be more suited to dealing with them.

  So let's look now at the different kinds of experiences that change you by making you think you are not good enough. When someone criticizes how you've done something or even why you've done something, this makes you question yourself. And even when you think you are right, their comment still plays on your mind and causes you to go over what you did and justify it to yourself.

  Another kind of experience is when you make a mistake. Seeing for yourself that you've done something wrong doesn't make it easier, and you'll still beat yourself up about it, but you will definitely change how you act next time.

  And finally, you can think you aren't good enough when you are doing something that causes you to compare yourself to other people or compare your life to other people's lives. Of course, this is a natural thing that we all do, and there are different degrees of it. So this experience will only change you if you strongly feel bad about yourself compared to this person.

  So now that we know what is happening, we need to know how to react to what is happening and what to do to get the most out of it? First of all, you need to swallow your pride. If you resist the need to change, then you will just slow down this very necessary process. It's important that you be honest with yourself and don't fight against it. Just recognize what needs to be done and work to better yourself.

  So where will you end up after all this change? Well, as this cycle repeats of you feeling like you're not good enough, then reacting against it and slightly changing how you think and act, then you will eventually be a very different person. And this is beneficial for one very important reason, and that is because you will be someone who has an enhanced sense of how to live your life.